‘Shoulds’ often cover up our fears, suspicions and resentments. Perls maintains that ‘shouldism’ in adults reflects a childlike desire to please others rather than to respond to ones’ own genuine needs. Those internalised beliefs and attitudes prevent us from moving forward. We feel trapped with no sense of choice.Read more "On ‘Shouldism’…"
Adjusting to a new cultural environment is full of challenges. It could be described as a journey through the joy of discovery and its polarity – heartbreaking loss. It has also been defined in terms of emotional stages.Read more "On finding a sense of belonging… (Part 2)"
But how can we manage our anger in the moment, when we are overcome by that surge of energy which announces the arrival of anger? …I take a step back – literally. And then focus on my breathing.Read more "When angry, breathe!"
Anger is a primary, natural emotion experienced by all humans at times. It is our natural response to threat or frustration. The frustration of our desires or the interruption of current activities is likely to evoke anger.Read more "What we can learn from anger…"